Do you have ADD or EAA?
(Attention Deficit Disorder or Enhanced Attention Abilities)
“The world is so full of a number of things I’m sure we should all be
as happy as kings.” Robert Lewis Stevenson
But we aren’t, are we. The world is so full of so many things that we can’t keep up with it…can’t get a grasp on it…can’t assimilate it…can’t deal with it…can’t sort out what to pay attention to…what should be first…what’s most important.
Ask someone of a certain age, like me for instance, who after having my children diagnosed with the curse of ADD, was told that it was because their parents both had ADD. We all have ADD. But who doesn’t? How can we not, in this information-saturated world we inhabit now?
The kids couldn’t sit still in school. It was recommended by the teachers that they be medicated so they would fit in and not flit about or play too much, which was deemed highly disrupting to their ability to learn. They were bothersome. They were also brilliant and creative, loved to laugh and move their bodies. They enjoyed life.
But then we discovered we were all ADD. We had a problem. Problems inherently need to be fixed and I looked for palatable methods of going about that. But fixing this problem spawned an unprecedented plethora of more problems. Labels and categories were invented. Now we had more than just ADD to deal with, we also had ADHD. We had drug pushers. We had time outs. We had punishments.
We tried everything because at school we had problems. But the problems created by fixing the problem became even more problematic. Soon each kid, along the way, began to Not feel brilliant. Their creativity was criticized and unappreciated. They colored outside the lines with the wrong colors. Their streams of consciousness burst beyond the boundaries of proper paragraphs. Tapping their toes as they hummed songs of their own creation to help them concentrate was deemed incompatible with the rules of acceptable concentration habits.
It didn’t take long for each of my kids, being precious, unique and astounding in their own way, to rebel…in their own way. None would cooperate with taking the ADD medications. They said they didn’t recognize themselves. They said they felt funny. They said they didn’t feel right. Behavioral modifications were primitive, punishing and exhausting to implement in those earlier days before medications became the easier to implement norm.
Soon those kids, and now their parents, were not laughing much. Problems have a way of extinguishing laughter and the expression of joy. Number one dropped out of the mainstream. Number two raged against the machine. Number three saw the retaliations the first two experienced and confessed to nothing but sports. By the time number four came along and was ‘diagnosed’, there was an extensive battery of tests that sub-categorized the ADD into twenty new areas of disability to name and label.
We were told our lives were ruined because we are…not have… but are… ADD. Now it’s late and we have ADD grandchildren. We may not be able to save them from the archaic educational model they are still stuck in. But I am now strongly suggesting to my darlings that by changing the ADD acronym they’ve been assigned and imprisoned with, to my more accepting and pleasurable EAA, they can adopt a more enjoyable and expansive relationship to education as a lifelong learning adventure…in spite of what they’ve endured in the past.
Our brains are incredible. Our brains are fantastic. Our brains are not the problem. In fact, instead of sinking into the self-admonishing world of problems associated with ADD, we can choose to celebrate a life-affirming world of possibilities associated with being EAA. Technology is catching up with us, not the reverse. We can learn the way we need to learn. There’s an app for that. We can learn the way we want to. We have the technology. Instead of dropping out because we don’t fit in, we can learn to love this world.wide.web. We can all find a place to fit in somewhere. Your tribe is either already gathered, or is waiting for your call…your own uniquely expressed invitation.
Find your best place with your own Enhanced Attention Ability. Put some fun in your former dis-fun-ction.
Live Love Laugh and be Happy! I am convinced this is the way to be ready for the great big changes still coming.